Women usually get an orgasm by proper stimulation of the clitoris, a small lap of skin just over the vagina. The woman herself or her partner can stimulate the clitoris by hand, using lubricating gel. It can be stimulated by mouth also. Her partner may also stimulate the clitoris and it is usually done before the vaginal intercourse. Note that during normal vaginal sexual intercourse, the nerve endings in the man's penis are stimulated, but not the nerve endings in the woman’s clitoris. Only 30 % of all women get an orgasm through vaginal sexual intercourse according to survey conducted.

There is also a place inside the vagina that can be stimulated to give an orgasm. This point is named the g-point or g-spot. It is, however, very difficult to find this point and stimulate it in the right way. Women who succeed in getting orgasm this way generally use the intercourse position with the woman on top of the man. The main reason for this is that this position gives the woman the largest options to control the movements so as to stimulate the g-point.

Some women have a problem in that stimulating the g-point causes a strong desire to urinate. Sometimes, couples start with foreplay and manual or oral stimulation, then switch to intercourse with the woman on top until the woman gets her orgasm, and then switch to the man on top until the man gets an orgasm. But this is something each couple will have to try out whatever they prefer.

After foreplay by kissing and fondling (may have to continue for up to 20 minutes) the partner or the person herself stimulates the clitoris (the arc below the labia or genital lips, and above the vagina opening) by rapidly flicking a finger or the tongue back and forward or up and down. If you are using a finger, be sure to use lots of lubricating gel (can be bought at a local drug store). If you are using the tongue, lubricating gel is not necessary, since lubrication comes from the mouth. Ask her to concentrate on sexy thoughts at the same time.

The first step in learning to get an orgasm is that woman learns to get an orgasm by masturbation. She can also teach her male partner how to do, and knows when it feels right and wrong. Listen to her, ask her what feels good and not good, and try out the best technique together with her. So undoubtedly she is responsible for telling her partner how to make her satisfied.

It is fairly common that women masturbate themselves during intercourse, in order to get an orgasm. Some feminists reject the idea that men usually "give" women an orgasm. They claim that equality requires that each one is responsible for their own orgasm. Other people see love making as a common activity of giving and taking. Some women have to concentrate on erotic fantasies to get an orgasm. The fantasies which work for some women can be often weird and contain actions they would never do in real life.