A threesome is a term, which describes a sexual act involving three people. The act has been referred by some as being done by married couples who have reached a point in their marriage where both believe they need added excitement, commonly called to as "spicing up the marriage". In most cases it is a one time act by a married couple with a third partner, and not intended to be carried on further, often called "swinging".

Males start most of the threesome initiatives. There are exceptions, however in the vast majority of cases it’s the guys that come up with the idea. If the female is the one with the initiative or if both of you are convinced about pursuing the threesome fantasy, you are one step ahead. However if you would like to experience a threesome and you have never discussed it with your partner, you might need some guidelines to help you persuading her into participating in your fantasy.

The first thing that you have got to take into consideration is that women place high values on the pair-bond. Women are very uneasy of anyone and anything threatening the health and longevity of the relationship between her and her partner. For most women, a threesome carries risks she is not eager to accept. The first giant obstacle you will face will be to overcome her insecurity. Besides the social conditioning she was raised with, there are some obstacles that need to be cleared before she can be enthusiastic about inviting someone else into an intimate relationship.

Persuasion to have threesome

It may very well be that your lover fantasizes about a threesome too, but has been afraid to admit it. Contrary to men, women often speak to the point and often beat around the bush before telling you what they actually want. If you want her to talk about her fantasies, you can encourage her by the following ways:

• Be supportive to her opinions and ideas. If you try to criticize or invalidate her, she will not reveal her private thoughts.
  
  
• Affirming that you consider all her desires to be totally normal and also, acknowledge her fantasies.

• Making her more receptive to your fantasy by assuring her that bisexual desires do not depreciate her value as a lifelong partner. Tell her that varied fantasies make her more interesting, alluring and captivating as a sexual partner.
  
  
• Don’t push her into something that scares her. Allow her to become used to the idea. Women work out their problems by discussing them and always encourage her to talk to you.

• Using the Right Words Females are much more fine-tuned when it comes to using the right words. A common mistake from males when attempting to persuade their partners is to use the wrong words or the right words at the wrong time.
  
  
• One very important point: when she asks you who that woman would be, your best way is not to mention any name. Tell her the ultimate choice would be hers.
  
  
• This removes any suspicion that you have already done “research" on your project and simplifies her fear that you want someone she does not like. Besides, this will also get her involved in the process.